What Makes them to behave like this?

What makes mothers-in-law ( Not All ) to treat ( or at least feel in mind ) their daughters-in-Law as a servant for their family.

I was thinking that India has improved a lot, and now a days we are having freedom to live life as we want.

But the bitter truth is, we don't have.

Some of my friends' experience made me to write this post.

She is a working woman and best performer too. She is having a girl child. They have bought a house and registration was done on both of their names ( husband and wife ), because loan was a joint loan. Mother-In-Law got angry, she fought with them and left to native.
Her husband is not a sensitive person at all, he always talks to his mother and updates everything what is happening in their house. He takes decision according to his mother's wishes. He is not giving single rupee for home expenses except that home loan. More over, He is expecting her to do all the house-hold work, taking care of kid and everything. He never pay a single rupee for kid's school expense. He never shares single house hold work. He is working in a nice position too. Husband and his mother hate the baby because she is girl. And she is not having plans to have a second baby.Now she is not able to take decision to go out and live alone, she is scared of the society. She is financially very much independent.But afraid to take that decision because of baby.

I can't imagine this kind of situation.

What difference it makes in elder people's life if the baby is girl or boy?

What is the funda behind living together in the concept of marriage, if both are not happy?

One of my another friend got married recently.

Her Mother-In-Law was so happy from the date of engagement. She was calling her daily and keep on telling that you are like my daughter. In Our family, we will always ask the son and daughter to separate and live to avoid future problems, she told. But after marriage it was totally different. She was completely in a mindset to complain about the girl to his son and always possessive with her son. Son also doesn't understand about his wife's problems. He always tries to convince his wife, instead of advising his mother.

If they don't want to understand a girl and they want to be possessive with themselves, why in the world they want to do a marriage?

One more friend's mother-in-law and husband are telling to change her character according to their family. And always complaining about her activities ( She has not done any mistake )

Even girls have grown up with some different environment and they have come to live in a different environment.
How in a month or year they can change their own nature?

Why one need to change their own character for anything?
God has to answer all these..

Regards,
Vaanadhi