Happy Brithday to 2014

Happy Birthday to 2014 ( I thought and thought so much for a title.. This is what i could get.. )

Some new resolutions for this year... Some things I may break.. Some things I may follow...

My character is not a static one, it is dynamic ( 'Anniyachi' as called by Dinesh )..

But still I am making resolutions.. Because it makes me happy... It takes me to celebration mode of this new year...

So here are my resolutions only for this new year...

1. People are Important : Share things with people. Don't hurt people unnecessarily. Talk to more people. Create good and positive relationships. Spend enough time for family.

2. Reading and Writing : Reading makes me happy.. Read more.. Writing in diary or in this blog always increases the confidence in me.. So Explore things via writing..

3. Search Of New World : Visit at least 2 new places in this year.. It gives creative thinking and pleasure.

4. Physical Work : Increase physical activities as much as possible. It gives mental health as well.

5. Work And Interest : Concentrate On Work. Complete the NTT course with satisfaction.


Thats it...

(Why the count is 5?
Why we always end some things in 5, 10 or their multiples?
I was thinking on this for long time..
At last I got answer like this..
Because our money system is like that.. There is no 3 rupee coin or 6 rupee coin na...
So always we make our mind set to calculate easily.. that makes us to do this..
Or clock seconds we are counting in multiples of 5.. May be because of that?
In my corner of mind , there is a question.. Why we made coins as 5 and 10?
Why we counted seconds and minutes in multiples of 5?
Confused? Huh :-) Thats What I wanted )

Sorry for this above paragraph...
I started thinking on this, while writing this post...

Wishing you a very happy New Year ahead...


Enjoy..
Vaanadhi..

Bye Bye 2013

Oh .. 2013 completed so soon.. Isn't it?
Today is the last day in 2013...

Oh God... I am remembering the day 1 of 2013...
 - How me and Dinesh were eagerly waiting to see whether the world will vanish as per Mayan Calendar or not ( Ya.. Reading unnecessary things will leave us in this state too.. :-) )

- How the crackers showed the happiness of the world ( at least of Bangalore city that I know) when the clock ticked 12.01 AM.

This year had given so many good and bad things as any other year...

2013 had helped me so much for my attitude growth..
I started understanding people in a better way..
I started liking my character more than any other time...
I saw myself growing internally..
I saw consistency in my activities..
"Reading books" had become a habit for me..
I shared lot and lot of things with my friends without any possessiveness or superiority\Inferiority complex...
Oh God.. Enough is enough.. This is like self appraisal...
 2013 was a good year for personal growth...


Wanted to give nice send off for 2013 ... Bye bye 2013...

Looking forward for 2014 with new dreams, expectations and plans...

Wishing everyone a very happy new year!!!

Let 2014 gives you a positive attitude towards life..
Let 2014 gives you lot and lot of energy to do everything that you wanted...
Let 2014 gives you a character to see happiness in everything...


With Love and Care,
Vaanadhi

Be Happy and Humble always :-)

Book : Confessions of a call center worker

Last week-end I completed my reading of the book "confessions of a call center worker".
The story goes like this:
Kris, a young guy from Northern part of West Bengal moves into Kolkatta to continue studies after his school completion.
After completing his degree, he joins with a call center due to family pressure. Mostly the discussion was about this part of his life.
It was good to read as I have worked in the same type of technical call support ( not either in call center or in night shift ) when I started my career.
But the way of story telling was not much impressive to me. I am not sure why.
I put this book away twice without interest. But today, I did not have any other option as I was waiting for my husband for more than 3 hours, and this was the only book I had in my hand bag.
It took my thoughts back to initial days of my career. Thanks to the Author.

Happy week ahead..

Vaanadhi

Book : The One You Cannot Have

I completed my reading of the novel "The One You Cannot Have" by Preeti Shenoy.

I really loved the story and narration.

Than "The Secret Wishlist", I like this now.

Story was really interesting, and narration takes us to turn pages unknowingly. This may be too much. But this is what I felt.

I personally like if any character of a story is either writer or journalist .. I really don't know why..

Story goes like this: Aman and Shruthi loved each other. Time makes them not to marry. Shruthi has married to Rishabh because of her situation.

They both struggle with the pain, even though they continue to go on and work.

After 2 years of enough struggle, Aman makes a move towards Anjali who is a journalist ( This was the character I completely loved in this story ). Aman decides to move on with Anjali, he happened to meet Shruthi. And what he decides is the climax...

It was amazing.. I wanted the same decision by Aman at the end...

Really nice...

I wanted to mention one thing..

Yesterday night ( It was midnight ), I was reading the book.. I was about to complete.. By reading the below sentence I started laughing...

Then my husband asked me and I told him to read and we both burst into laugh...

When a woman says, "There is something to talk about" you only have two options.

1. Tuck your tail between your legs and run as fast as you can.

I am not going to tell the second option, read in the novel... :-)




My husband told that he is agreeing with both the points :-)

I liked the articles written by Anjali ( Preeti's thoughts )..

Totally worth reading story...

Thank you Preeti for this nice book...

Whatever I am writing is not a review and its only my emotions...

Enjoy...

Happy week end!!!

With Love,
Vaanadhi

who has to decide about having children?

I am reading the book "The One You Cannot Have"

Actually why I wanted to write this post in between you know?

For about 2-3 weeks I am having the same feeling that Shruthi ( A character in the novel ) has in having own children.

I have got this question from all the end "Any Good News?" which I hate to hear.. And this is what I am replying to everyone "If at all something is there, I will definitely inform you"

I really don't understand why people will interfere in others' personal things which is really personal.

They are telling Indian culture is conservative.. Is it?

This is something like asking, "Have you had sex yet or not?" and this is what I interpret to, whenever somebody asks about that Good news.

Don't they feel shame in asking this? What is the solution they are going to provide if I do or don't get conceived..

I am really feeling irritated if someone asks about this, be it my mom or my in-laws...

Is that the only duty a girl has after marriage? She is not having anything else to achieve in her life?

After all, If she wants baby, that is she, who has to decide on that... How can we go for having a baby for someone else?

I hate all the people who asks me about this good news..

Till Marriage they will ask, When is the marriage.. Then immediately they will ask "When is the kid?"

Is that all life about?

I do like kids.. But I have to plan when i have to get it na?

Please don't ask anyone like this... It may hurt them..

With Experiences,
Vaanadhi

Kinder Garten Teachers are Really Great..

Yesterday I had NTT class..Where in we had to teach a rhyme and story to kids..
We had to bring the teaching aids also..
One thing that I understood is, it is really very difficult to make the kids to listen some thing that you are telling..
It is easy to teach the grown up pupil and not for the kindergarten..

I really wondered that some people put so much efforts on that.. They danced, they were running here and there with rhymes..
They were making sounds like Lion, Tiger, Goat etc to narrate stories..
They might have struggled a lot to bring the interesting aids to teach..
We can't take this as a simple occupation like anything else..This takes real efforts.. Real interest... Some times pain too..
But all the teachers enjoy doing it...
Kudos to all kindergarten teachers... ( I will be one among them in future.. :-) )
Happy Week ahead!!!

Enjoy every moment of life...

With Love,
Vaanadhi

Book: Confessions Of A Page 3 Reporter

Last Night, I completed my reading of the book "Confessions of a Page 3 Reporter"

This book deals with life incidents of a Page 3 reporter Megha, who works for a daily newspaper named "Morning Post".

She talks clearly about the aspects of page 3 journalism. Why I am telling this is , I know very little things about journalism. But after reading this book, I felt a little difference in that.

She talks nicely about Politics in the industry, her superior who tries to demotivate or ensures no credit for her hard work.

She explains about her Boss, who is a rich and handsome person and makes her to fall in his trap, using her enthusiasm towards improvement in work.

Totally, It was a nice book and it made me to turn pages just like that.

I enjoyed reading this book.. This story was totally different environment for me to analyze...

Thanks to Megha Malhotra..

Good For Nothing.. But Doing Everything..

I have become so busy these days.

I started doing many things, No idea whether it is correct or not, But I am enjoying..

I am playing with my neighbor kids..

We tried so many science experiments together..

I helped them in doing homework and assignments..

I joint in Aerobics class which makes me more fresh, I am forgetting whatever the tension was there in my mind after completing the class everyday..

My NTT course project assignments and lesson plan preparations are going on.. In November, I have to submit my first term assignments.. I have to work really very very hard to complete..

In between, I made 2 table mats using woolen thread and crochet needle.. Photos are here..

I completed reading of 5 novels ( Tamil novels are more :-) )

I prepared simple pineapple jam yesterday.. To My surprise, It came out really well..

My husband told me to concentrate on any one thing.. But it is really tough for me to do that...

Okay.. Weekend got over.. Monday Again..

Enjoy...

Happy week ahead..

With Love,
Vaanadhi

Touch Thursday No : 3

If you are a woman, write 3 things (or more)  that you really want from men.

 1. I want you ( Men ) to see women as a soul who is having feelings, and not a flesh who gives attraction to you in any other way.


2. I want you to take responsibilities in your home as much any of your woman does. Be it cooking, cleaning, checking Grocery Items monthly or any other house hold works. It is not a responsibility of a woman to serve all these to men; But you are taking it as granted because of a relationship and this is the truth.
3. I want you not to show any physical power on woman at any time because she is weak in her physique by nature, comparing to men.
4. I want you not to give any shock if you are seeing a woman who drinks or smokes, for the only reason because she is a woman. Generally these things are not good for health for everyone, there is no difference if a woman does or a man.

5. I want you to listen to me when I talk about some serious things, which I think, is really important to me, rather having a look at your Mobile or Laptop.

P.S.:This entry is for the Touch Thursday contest conducted by Preeti Shenoy.

 

 

Regards,
Vaanadhi

Buying unnecessary stuffs

I wanted to write about this for long time..

I have seen many of my friends purchasing so many house hold items without even thinking whether it is really required..

Some of them are, A complete set of business sofas, A complete big set of dining table, Good designer wooden cots, Wall hanging televisions which will be really big in size etc.

That too for a rental house where in we may need to vacate and change the house at any time for any situation..

Will they be really useful?

But if I ask this question, I always get any one of the below answers..

    - Yes.. These are all really useful ( I really wondered!!!)
    - If Some relatives or friends come, they will use this
    - What others will think if we purchase small item in this.
    - Small Items will not have good quality.
    - I liked that design.
    - I will not feel comfortable without these things.
    - Home will be perfect if we have all these.
    - There was a nice offer for this item.

Whatever... But I always wondered if I get any of these answers..

Because I never liked any particular thing, simply for design. As per me, If it serves the purpose that's enough.. ( People tease me that I dont have aesthetic sense, But I am like that only)

I never liked to spend money on big things... ( I am not that money saving person, I don't want to put it in things...)




The only thing that I can't control my expenditure is craft materials.. But I will definitely use them..

I never felt that someone will be comfortable in our house only if this thing is there...

If they are not able to adjust in my home, I don't have any problem ( Until unless they need a thing which is really going to affect their physical or mental health in a very bad way)

I never liked to spend more money on rent also ( But there is no other way in some cases )

I asked so many people, "Give me one value added advantage of double door-ed Refrigerator over single one"

On top of all these, I am very very lazy to keep on cleaning everything..

For me, house has to be clean always, If I have all these things, I can't take them out and clean regularly..

So, I wondered how people will clean the house if so many things are there..

I prefer to cut vegetables in hand using knife than putting in cutter, I am very lazy to clean that cutter.. And the same for everything..

Some times wondered about one more thing. At that time of marriage, Girl's parents have to give all the house hold items ( In India ) even if it is not going to be used in her life time, and that calls for another post :-)

I will regret about my purchase always if it is not used at least once in a month..

Again, It depends on each individual's personality..

Just wanted to share... Thats all...

Then, Whats up? 3 more days to reach week-end.. ( Ya.. I am that working woman who longs for week-end always )

I already pre-ordered Preeti Shenoy's next book which is getting released in November.. Waiting for it..

I did this because of the impression I got in her last book "The Secret Wishlist"

Okay.. Thats about all....

Take Care..

Have a nice Week followed by great week-end..

With Love,

Vaanadhi

What Makes them to behave like this?

What makes mothers-in-law ( Not All ) to treat ( or at least feel in mind ) their daughters-in-Law as a servant for their family.

I was thinking that India has improved a lot, and now a days we are having freedom to live life as we want.

But the bitter truth is, we don't have.

Some of my friends' experience made me to write this post.

She is a working woman and best performer too. She is having a girl child. They have bought a house and registration was done on both of their names ( husband and wife ), because loan was a joint loan. Mother-In-Law got angry, she fought with them and left to native.
Her husband is not a sensitive person at all, he always talks to his mother and updates everything what is happening in their house. He takes decision according to his mother's wishes. He is not giving single rupee for home expenses except that home loan. More over, He is expecting her to do all the house-hold work, taking care of kid and everything. He never pay a single rupee for kid's school expense. He never shares single house hold work. He is working in a nice position too. Husband and his mother hate the baby because she is girl. And she is not having plans to have a second baby.Now she is not able to take decision to go out and live alone, she is scared of the society. She is financially very much independent.But afraid to take that decision because of baby.

I can't imagine this kind of situation.

What difference it makes in elder people's life if the baby is girl or boy?

What is the funda behind living together in the concept of marriage, if both are not happy?

One of my another friend got married recently.

Her Mother-In-Law was so happy from the date of engagement. She was calling her daily and keep on telling that you are like my daughter. In Our family, we will always ask the son and daughter to separate and live to avoid future problems, she told. But after marriage it was totally different. She was completely in a mindset to complain about the girl to his son and always possessive with her son. Son also doesn't understand about his wife's problems. He always tries to convince his wife, instead of advising his mother.

If they don't want to understand a girl and they want to be possessive with themselves, why in the world they want to do a marriage?

One more friend's mother-in-law and husband are telling to change her character according to their family. And always complaining about her activities ( She has not done any mistake )

Even girls have grown up with some different environment and they have come to live in a different environment.
How in a month or year they can change their own nature?

Why one need to change their own character for anything?
God has to answer all these..

Regards,
Vaanadhi

Most Excited Family Trip

Last Week End, We had gone for an excited trip.
We went to "Shimoga" and "Chikmagalur" ( Hope the spelling is correct)
Thursday Night, we started from Bangalore and reached Shimoga by Friday morning 5.30 AM.
First we went to a temple, kind of island where we need to travel in a boat and reach there.
It was an awesome river with so much water-flow ( I think its because of rainy season).
Some people told that the river name is "Sharavathi",whereas other people told that it is "Thungabathra".

 

We reached the temple, we couldn't go inside the temple as there was a big queue.

But We enjoyed the journey in that river.

Our next destination was the famous "Jog Falls".

The beauty of that falls, Oh My God!!! I can't explain it in words..

It was simply Awesome in one word.. There were so much water..

I was in an impression that they will allow to go inside that falls, which was not true.

We took photos and enjoyed the view..

Friday Night, we stayed in Shimoga ...Nobody can forget that hotel food... :-(

Saturday Morning, we started our journey towards "Kalhatri" falls..( some people pronounced as "kallatgiri")

There we were allowed to get inside.. It was awesome falls..

We all were hungry enough to attack hot "Bhajjis" in a small shop near to that falls.. It was the tastiest food at that time..

Then we went to "Kemmangundhi" falls.. The path was so much wild.. That much it made us to feel happy..

Falls was also very nice..

On the way back, we were caught by great "Leeches". Those blood suckers tasted almost everyone's.

We all were screaming, running here and there, can't forget for whole life..

Then we reached a nice cottage in chikmagalur, played some games.. Had nice food..

Sunday Morning, we started journey towards Bangalore..

On the way, we went for boating.. Here is the first time, I traveled in Speed boat..

First time,I saw Banana boat and Jet Sky which were awesome.

After that we got parcel food in "Hassan" and had in an opened space... That experience was good..

The speciality of the trip is "The Team" that had formed... There were no misunderstanding..

All were in a single good mood to freak out and enjoy..

Two kiddos ( Kavya and Siddhu) made the trip more special..

Nice Team.. Nice Trip.. Total Enjoyment, And nothing is required other than that..

Team is here..

 

Life is once.. And God has given us to Live at the most part of it...

We should enjoy every moment of it.. We don't know, what next minute holds for us...

Do Enjoy!!!

With Love,

Vaanadhi.

 

Another Life Story..

Last week, I read Ravinder Singh's latest book , "Like It Happened Yesterday"
As like while reading his second book, I had the same expectation for this too.
But Somehow I did not feel that much satisfied on what I expected.
First few chapters were OK kind...
For everyone childhood memories will always be good to remember, especially If we struggled hard to get a better position in life.. Same thing happened to the author also..
After 10th chapter, it was boring to read.. I felt there is nothing and did not understand what he is coming to say... After 180th page, it was a good change, because the topic was changed..
Its good only to have a open talk, but it should not be boring this way.. and that is what i felt..
Last chapter was good and inspiring..

I feel that the author can come up with some social thoughts and fictions..
I know that it is easy to comment and how it is hard to pen down the thoughts..
But it is an expectation from a reader..
Overall, It made me to remember my childhood and adolescent days.. It made me to remember how I worked hard to get a job and live happily..
Thanks to Ravinder Singh.

I hate week ends of month ends..
This week end will be a happy week end, first week end of the month na..
Really happy...
Enjoy the Life.. Its only one.. Live for your own interests...

With Love,
Vaanadhi.

Became Memories...

Today I was talking to one of my college friends..
She asked whats special today.. Then I remembered that today is Chadurthi ( Kind of a prayer)
Then I remembered about our college days..
Ours was a rural area college..
When we studied there were about 1500 members stayed in hostel..
There was a small temple ( No... I am not that big devotee..) inside that hostel itself..
For every Chadurthi, they used to give sweet pongal as prasad ( Prasadham in 'Tamil')
People used to go for Pooja, they used to sit and do all the rituals for about 2 hours..
We used to go exactly when they start distributing that Pongal and be the first person in that Pongal queue..
We were remembering all those things...
But I really did not think that these all will go as memory this much soon...
For me it seems "Like It Happened Yesterday" ( This is the book title what I am reading now :-))
Good Memories...
Can't forget our senior batch ( JBG.. Miss u dears...) and Junior batch..
Can't forget the hostel day functions..
Till now I remember the hostel food schedule for every day .. I mean, breakfast for Monday is idly, for Tuesday is Pongal and Vada,etc...
That place gave me great pleasure..

If I am able to go back to past and live for 1 day, i will definitely choose this place...

Enjoy..

With Love,
Vaanadhi

Week End With One More Card..

Last Week End, I made one more card..
I got help from youtube videos..
See this Pic..
I liked it ( It was done by me na..:-))

 

Have A Happy Week ahead...

I want this week to go fast...

Enjoy..

Regards,

Vaanadhi

What Is Real Friendship?

Now a days I am really confused about friends and friendship.
Some people are really very very selfish that I have never imagined.
Some people are really cunning.
Some people are really trying to demotivate me in everything.
Some times I feel like slapping these kind of people.
But Some friends are really nice to me. But I am getting afraid some times, whether they will also change.
I read an article in Preeti's blog.
Sharing the link.


http://justamotheroftwo.blogspot.in/2013/07/5-major-deal-breakers-in-friendships.html

Nice Article.
Have a Happy Week end!!!

Regards,
Vaanadhi.

Some thing What I did..

I did not get time to come here and update my things...
I felt doing it today..
I did so many things for 3 weeks..
I painted..
Here is my painting.. ( I did not draw it, only painted)

Then I made my first quilled design (completely mine)..
Here it is ...

 

Then I read a lot...

Will put in some other time..

Joint in NTT course, feeling so happy about it.. :-)

Enjoy...

With Love,

Vaanadhi

Feelings...

I Hate People,

  Who want me to understand them, but they don't understand me..
  Who calls me only when a help is needed..
  Who acts so busy when I call and teases me when I am really busy..
  Who comments unnecessarily on my own interests ( That's Obvious na... It differs person to person..)
  Who advises me when it is not needed at all...
  Who talks something indirectly ( I will get extreme angry..) and think that I might not understand..
  Who takes all the help from me and ignores when time comes...
  
I Love People,

  Who loves me and makes me to feel that..  
  Who cares me even though they make calls rarely..
  Who is not intruding in my personal activities..
  Who can give me instant smile without hurting...
  Who makes time to call me..
  Who understands my interests..
  Who remembers me when a happy or sad thing happens...
   

Be Happy.. Its one life... I want to Live for My Own Interests...

Vaanadhi..

Special Place Which Gives Me Instant Smile!!!

Memories of that special place..

 Teeny garden which made our tea time special !!

 Super canteen (!) where we ended up for variant taste !!

 Ever special class room !!

 And our matchless lab!!

Memories of those special days..

 Mid night surprise cake cutting !!

 Hostel day celebrations !!

 Senior-Junior meet ups !!

Memories of special incidents..

 Result days and that small envy which comes in mind!!

 Rebuke from professors as worst batch ever!!

 Study timings and discussions!!

 Favorite gossips about others!!

 Astonishment on every small deed!!

 And that needless wrangles !!

Missing you All dears...

I love you so much friends...



With Love,
Vaanadhi

Does The Type Of School Realy Matter?

Does type of School Really Matter?

When i was talking to one of my friends Keerthi, I got this question in my mind..

As I have already updated in this blog, I and Keerthi will have almost 70%, same types of feeling and views on different things..

We both got bored of regular work, she had called me to have a walk for 10 minutes..

At that time she was telling, what we are going to achieve by doing this regular work ( I was also in the same mood..)

Then I told her, what do you want to do then?

She told that some creative work... But she wants money to live as interested which is not possible at present
by doing something creative activities which she wanted to...

Then she told, If i could have studied in some good school like so many young writers, i could have got more vocabulary so that I can write more.. I know that she is interested in writing...

But What I thought at that moment was, "Does school really matter in this regard?"

She has studied in good environment and good school if i compare to myself ( I dint tell this to her...)

I have studied completely in Tamil Medium till 12th standard and "English language" was the only subject which i studied in English, and i used to memorize it for exam purpose, never understood anything...

In college, subject was Computer Science and there was no option to take Tamil Medium, So I studied in English Medium..

At that time only i started comparing the sentence relationship between Tamil and English, I started to understand and write exams in my own words.. You Know what, Always I used to be so much proud and happy if I make one nice sentence with grammar..

In all the interviews, I used to fail in second or third rounds where more communication skills are involved..

Then I started realizing, talking is much more difficult if you are able to write and read also...

We made a group in our hostel and started preparing for group discussions.. Every day from 7 PM to 7.30 PM, one person has to talk about some topic in English, and others have to ask question... Generally we will take some topic in Hindu newspaper and we used to discuss about it.. It went very well.. ( We did not have anybody to guide us to do all these... It was with our own experience...)

 After exactly two months i went for the second round in a recruitment camp, I got the topic as "Mercy Killing" for group discussion, to my surprise i did not feel any hesitation to talk... I got selected and now
working in the same organization.. Now I know that everything is possible if you try little more hard..

Till now i am learning English vocabulary and Grammar every day... Till now I understand that I will be lacking in basic words when i talk to a person who doesn't know Tamil or south Indian Languages.. At that time I will not give up and I will try to explain that maximum I can... I will feel very proud of me if they are able to understand...

So As per my knowledge, type of school is not having any influence with what we are going to be...

I love to learn a different language always, where my childhood or school is not having any impact on that...

Its a different thought i had because of Keerthi's talk..

Sometimes even I do feel to run away somewhere if I talk to some English talking people with totally different accent.. But I don't like to regret with the past life, because we cannot change it..

I agree that more vocabulary is required to be a writer, but it is possible to do if we try to learn..

Simply to share my views...

Be happy always :-)

Vaanadhi..

Secret Wish List!!!

I wanted to read Preeti's "The Secret Wish List" for long time.
I have not got time, because of back to back travels.
At last i decided and i started reading in travel itself ( Generally I don't read in travel)
Yesterday, I completed reading.
The story is about a girl's complete life.
A school girl, Dhiksha, has made a normal mistake and how that changes her life completely, this is the story.
I really liked the concept of making Secret Wish List for one self.
I also liked the concept of following heart, which mostly we don't do everytime.
I can't imagine in real world whether the character Sandeep can exist. If so, it is really horrible.

The Cover Page was Really Awesome. Here it is...

Thanks to Preeti for giving such nice thoughts...
Different way of thinking..

Enjoy...

With Love,
Vaanadhi

Like Holidays? At Last One Came..

I want weekends to be long...
U know why?
I want to -
- Read at least two books...
- Watch at least one movie..
- Call to so many friends which will give lots of energy to me...
- Try different dresses...
- Spend time with my husband..
- Go to terrace and sit as much time as i want to..
- Talk to my neighbors..
- Go for shopping...
- Play shuttle...
- Do skipping..
- Go for nice evening walk with my husband..
- Invite a friend for lunch...
- Prepare a new food item..
- Visit some nearby place or entertainment things...
- Grow a plant...
- Do pooja which i like most...
- Do dance as if nobody is watching..
- Do different hair cut...
- Clean house and decorate it the way i want it to be...
- Go for swimming which i love to do...
- Visit my native..
- Spend time with my parents...
- Talk to my brother...
- Discuss my plans with God...
- Have tea with my neighbor
- Learn some art

Oh... God... I can't complete this post... Because i like to do n things... which can't be counted..

One Good thing is,Tomorrow is holiday in Bangalore, its for Ugadi...

After Long Gap, we got holiday...

Happy Ugadi to All.

Happy Holiday.

Enjoy...

With Love,
Vaanadhi

Fear Of Death

I have heard from some people,
"I don't have any problem in dying, If death comes next minute also, i am ready"
I have wondered so many times, how could that be possible?
Because it is not at all possible for me.
I know what is a reality and I can understand that everyone has to die one day.
But still i can't say like that, because i can't think in the same way.
Death and Me? O my God! Not able to Imagine...

Sometimes, when i am lonely i used to think about it..
I will think, i should die before my husband, because i can't tolerate his absence in my life..
Another part of my mind will think, No.. Who will take care of him better than me, if i am not there?
Same way for others also...

Person who died, is lucky in fact...
But whoever misses them, is really in trouble...

If i think of death, i will remember all these things...

One of my childhood friends who died when we were in 5th standard because of some disease... Because of her death only, i realized people will not come back after death..

One of my high school friend, who killed herself, for some silly reason...

One of my college friend's cry on her first birthday, after her dad passed away.. We were not able to convince her... At that time only, I realized no one can replace anyone in this world... Every relationship is important, but each is having a different feeling...

One of my colleagues, who killed herself for love failure.. I ll remember her face almost daily once.. I don't know why...

My Grandpa who killed himself, because he had cancer and he did not want to trouble anyone to look after him when he is not able to take care of himself.

My another Grandpa who died, with sudden heart attack, exactly 3 days after my marriage...
He comes almost everyday in my dreams...My mom told that you are thinking about him continuously somewhere in your mind.. Thats why dream comes like this.. I miss him badly...

Even though, there are so many things I have seen and heard about death, these things will not vanish from my mind whenever i think about death...

My college professor told once, if you don't know where you are going ( your destination) you will get afraid. That is why we all will get afraid of death. Somehow i will feel that is also a reason..

Whatever... We should live our life with complete satisfaction... We should be humble and polite as much as possible...

Everywhere happiness is there... Lets enjoy....

Vaanadhi

No Words To Say :-(

I started reading a book "The Last Lecture".
Generally i will not read any review before buying any type of book, i have a curiosity to read and know the taste of it by myself.
Sameway i had bought this book also.
After reading first 10 pages, i felt really sad and did not know whether to continue or not.
But the way of writing made me to continue, so i did the same.
After that in some places i forgot that a cancer patient has written that. That much he had tried to make it simple and fun.
I wanted not to cry while completing, but i couldn't help myself in the last but one chapter "Jai and Me", when she told "Please don't die". Tears were coming down from my eyes.
I really wonder how he had that much optimistic view on life even though he had known his end of life.
Hats-Off Randy.
Even though its been a long time, i am praying for the wellness of Jai,Dylan,Logan and chloe and wishing them all the very best to lead their life perfectly.
I am praying for wellness of all the kids in the world who has lost their parents.
This book has changed my perception towards life.

I like his approaches as a professor as well.
He has told "If have to die, i am comfortable by having "Alice" as a professional Legacy". (Alice is the software which helps students to learn programming in 3D environment and Randy was part of its development.)

I liked the complete chapter - "A recovering jerk"

He has written in the starting page about why he has given this textual legacy for his kids.
"If I were a painter, I would have painted for them, If were a musician i would have composed music, But I am a lecturer, So I lectured"

The title "An Injured Lion still wants to roar" itself hurted me more.

I really wanted to put some of his quotes and the things he explained.

"Time is all you have and you may find one day that you have less time than you think"

"We cannot change the cards we dealt, just how we play the hand"

He told that he has got this from his father"Never make a decision untill you have to"

"Anybody out there who is a parent, if your kids want to paint their bed room, Let them do it, It will be ok. Don't worry about the resale value of the house"

"People are more important than things"

"If you took one-tenth the energy you put into complaining and applied it to solving the problem, you will be surprised by how well things can work out"

"Treat the disease, not the symptoms"

"Go on those trips you have always wanted to take"

"Time must be explicitly managed like money"

"You can always change your plan, but if you have only one"

"Ask yourself: Are spending time with right things?"

"Develop a Good Filing System"

"The Number one Goal of teacher should be to help students learn how to learn"

But Randy's goal was "To help students learn how to judge themselves"

"Luck is indeed where preparation meets opportunity"

"Half-hearted or insincere apologies are often worse than not apologizing at all because recepients find them insulting"

If i could give only three words of advice, then it will be "Tell the truth"

"If you want something bad enough Never give up"

Thats it... Everyone are giving advices.. but it depends on us whether we have to follow it or not... but i really feel these words are worthy and told by a person who did not want any profit out of these words..
May be, if Randy have not got cancer, his kids might have not understood him this much, everything has a positive side as he said,i am taking a positive side of his life.

Please check this link for more details about The last lecture which i got it by searching in websites after reading this book.

As i always say, Life is for a small amount of time. Why we need to waste time in unwanted things?
Do whatever you like to do.. Enjoy... this minute will not come again...

With Love,
Vaanadhi

Perception changes, really :-)

Didn't understand the meaning of the title na?
At last i have completed my reading of the book "Why men don't listen and women can't read maps"
After reading this book, i felt my perception towards understanding the opposite gender have taken a different view.

Generally i love to read novels, and i love so much to read novels which are having positive ending and nothing in harm, at least the climax should be positive one. Otherwise, it will give a strange feeling to my mind which will stay for longer time.
But these types of books ( books which give advices) are really difficult for me to read. Generally i don't like to read if i got irritation in starting pages.

I don't really know how i started reading this book. Actually my team mate suggested this to me.
But really it took much time to complete this. I was not able to throw the book away in some pages, because it was interesting too.
Only thing is that, i did not like the statistical analysis and survey which were talked in this book.

Other than that, it was really nice and it made me to smile in so many places, because it talked about reality.

 I started observing the characteristics of myself and my husband's while reading the book, and ya.. there were so much i was able to relate with..

Totally the authors Allan and Barbara did really a nice job which helps us to understand the nature about the opposite gender.

I wanted to put some points which i really liked in this book.

Something which left a smile in my face:

1. This book is dedicated to all the men and women who have ever sat up at 2 am pulling their hair out as they plead with their partners, 'But why don't you understand?'

2. Survival was difficult but the relationship was easy in olden days - Ya they never ended up in court.

3. When a man stops his car to read a street directory, what's the first thing he does with his
radio? He turns it down! Most women can't understand why this happens. She can read while listening
and talking so why can't he? Why does he insist on turning down the TV when the telephone rings? 'When
he's reading the newspaper or watching TV, why can't he hear what I've just told him?' is a lament that has
been made by every woman in the world at some time. The answer is that a man's brain is configured for one
thing at a time because of fewer connecting fibers between the left and right hemispheres, and a more
compartmentalized brain. Take a brain scan of his head when he's reading, and you'll find he is virtually deaf.

4. One woman told us that if she is angry with her husband, she talks to him while he is hammering a nail!- Nice Revenge na :)

5. Boys love their toys. This is why 99% of all patents are registered by men. Girls love to play with toys too but usually lose interest by age 12 as they begin to grow into young women. Men never lose their obsession for impractical, spatially-related toys - they just spend a lot more on them. They love miniature pocket TVs, mobile phones shaped like cars, computer and video games, digital cameras, complicated gadgets, lights that go off or on by voice command and anything that has an engine. If it beeps, blinks and needs at least six D-cell batteries, most men want one.

6. While eating,When the bill arrives, the women calculate who had what. The men all throw $100 on the table indicating they want to pay so they can grab the spotlight, each pretending that they really don't want the change.

Helpful for Men to understand Women:

1. Women can always find the missing set of car keys, but rarely the most direct route to their destination.

2. A woman knows her children's friends, hopes, dreams, romances, secret fears, what they are thinking, how they are feeling and, usually, what mischief they are plotting. Men are vaguely aware of some short people also living in the house.

3. For centuries women were burned at the stake for possessing 'supernatural powers'. These included the ability to predict outcomes of relationships, spot liars, talk to animals and uncover the truth.

4. Most men, if they're going to lie to a woman, would be far better off doing it over the phone, in a letter or with all the lights off, and a blanket over their head.

5. Women have superior sensitivity in differentiating tone changes in voice volume and pitch. This enables them to hear emotional changes in children and adults. This ability goes a long way to explaining the women's phrase, 'Don't use that tone of voice with me!' when arguing with men and boys. Most males don't have a clue what she's talking about.

6. The point of the woman's talk is to talk. But the man sees her continual talk about problems as a plea for
solutions. With his analytical brain, he continually interrupts her. When a woman is speaking her unused words at the end of the day, she doesn't want interruptions with solutions to her problems.

7. If a woman is talking to you a lot, she likes you. If she's not talking to you, you're in trouble.


8. Men need to understand that indirect talk is part of a woman's wiring and they should not get upset about it.

9.Women don't want solutions, they just want to talk about things and for someone to listen. When you're dealing with an upset woman, don't offer solutions or invalidate her feelings - just show her you're listening.

Helpful for Women to understand Men:

1. Men can never find a pair of socks but their CDs are in alphabetical order.

2. If a woman is out driving and gets lost, she'll stop and ask for directions. To a man, this is a sign of weakness. He'll drive round in circles for hours, muttering things like, 'I've found a new way to get there' or 'I'm in the general area' and 'Hey, I recognize that petrol station!' 

3. A woman's brain is configured for multitasking performance. She can do several unrelated things at the
same time, and her brain is never disengaged, it's always active. She can talk on a telephone, at the same
time as cooking a new recipe and watching television. Or she can drive a car, put on make-up and listen to the radio while talking on a hands-free telephone. But if a man is cooking a recipe and you talk to him, he is likely to become angry because he can't follow the written instructions and listen at the same time.

4.A man finds it difficult to say it with words. Buying a card is never a problem for a man, it's what to write inside that stumps him. Men often choose greetings cards with plenty of words inside. That way, there's less space for them to write.

5.The first rule of talking to a man: Keep it simple! Give him only one thing at a time to think about.

6. Men may be able to find their way from A to B via a maze of back streets, but put them in the middle of a group of women discussing a number of topics at the same time, and they get completely lost.

7. Men take turns talking, so when a man is having his turn, let him have it. 'Stop interrupting me!' is shouted by men at women everywhere and in every language. A man's sentences are solution-oriented and he needs to get to the end of the sentence, otherwise the conversation seems pointless. He can't multi-track various points at different times in the conversation and he views anyone else doing it as impolite or scatterbrained. This is a foreign concept to a woman.

8. If you are a woman raising a son or have men in your life, you need to understand that while they have excellent spatial ability, most can still only do one thing at a time. Most need help to organize their homework, diary and life in order to be effective boys and men. The organizational skills come more naturally to girls and women.

9.Don't offer a man advice unless be asks for it. Tell him you have confidence in his ability to work things out.
10. To motivate a man to go shopping, give him clear criteria - colours, sizes, brands, styles - and tell him where you will shop and for how long. With clear objectives (even if you've invented them), you'll be
amazed at a man's shopping enthusiasm.

Comparison:

1. Under pressure, men drink alcohol and invade other countries; women eat chocolate and go shopping.

2. Women criticize men for being insensitive, uncaring,not listening, not being warm and compassionate, not
talking, not giving enough love, not being committed to relationships, wanting to have sex rather than make
love, turning the temperature down, and leaving the toilet seat up.Men criticize women about their driving, for not being able to read street directories, for turning maps upside down, for their lack of a sense of direction, for talking too much without getting to the point, for not initiating sex often enough, turning the temperature up, and for leaving the toilet seat down.

3.Women have wider peripheral vision, men have tunnel vision.

4. Architectural plan of a house is seen two-dimensionally by a female brain, whereas a male brain can see it three dimensionally, that is, men can see depth. Most men can see how a building would look as a finished house. 

5. Most women can brush their teeth while walking and talking on several topics. They can make up-and down strokes with the toothbrush at the same time as polishing a table using a circular movement with the other hand. Most men find this very difficult, if not impossible. When men brush their teeth, their mono-tracked brain means they focus entirely on that single task. They all stand square to the basin, feet 30cm apart, body bent over the sink, moving their head back and forth against the brush, usually to the speed of the water.

6. Not only do girls start speaking earlier than boys but a three-year-old girl has nearly twice the vocabulary of a three-year-old boy, with her speech almost 100% comprehensible. Speech pathologists are kept busy with parents bringing young boys in for therapy with the same complaint: 'He can't speak properly. ' If the boy has an older sister, this speech difference is even more noticeable, particularly as older sisters and mothers frequently talk for their sons. Ask a five-year-old boy, 'How are you?' and his mother or
sister answers, 'He's fine, thanks'. Mothers, daughters, and older sisters often speak on behalf of
the males in their family.

7. Male brains are highly compartmentalized and have the ability to separate and store information. At the end of a day full of problems, a man's mono-tracking brain can file them all away. The female brain does not store information in this way - the problems just keep going around and around in her head. Men can mentally index their problems and put them on hold. Women churn. The only way a woman gets rid of her problems from her mind is by talking about them to acknowledge them. Therefore, when a woman talks at the end of the day, her objective is to discharge the problems, not to find conclusions or solutions. She might not be so expert at humiliating a man with a well placed barb, but she could hit him with a frying pan from a distance of 10 meters.

8.When women sit together to watch a movie on TV, they usually talk simultaneously about a variety of subjects, including children, men, careers and what's happening in their lives. When groups of men and women watch a movie together, the men usually end up telling the women to shut up. Men can either talk or watch the screen - they can't do both - and they don't understand that women can. Besides, women consider that the point of all getting together is to have a good time and develop relationships - not just to sit there like couch potatoes staring at the screen.

9. Indirect talk builds rapport among women - but it often doesn't work with men because they
don't understand the rules.

10. Indirect speech may be excellent for building relationships but, unfortunately, that benefit may pale into insignificance if cars or planes end up crashing when the driver or pilot is unclear about what is being said.
Indirect speech usually includes a lot of qualifiers such as 'kind of, 'sort of and 'a bit'. Imagine if Winston Churchill had used indirect speech to try to motivate the Allies against the threat from Hitler. It wouldn't have sounded quite the same. 'We will fight them on the beaches - kind of - we will fight them a bit in the fields - we will never, sort of, surrender. ' They might even have ended up losing the war.

11. When a woman uses indirect speech with another woman there is never a problem - women are
sensitive to picking up the real meaning. It can, however, be disastrous using it with men. Men use
direct speech and take words literally. But with patience and practice, men and women can learn to understand one another. Men's sentences are short, direct, solution-oriented and to the point, drawing on a broader vocabulary and peppered with facts. They use quantifiers such as 'none', 'never' and 'absolutely'. This kind of speech helps close business deals quickly and efficiently, and is a means of asserting authority over others. When men use such direct speech in their social relationships, it often makes them appear abrupt and rude.

12. To argue successfully, a man needs to understand that a woman will use words that she doesn't really mean, so he shouldn't take them literally or define them. Take, for example, when a woman says, 'If I sat next to a woman who was wearing the identical dress, I'd just die! There's nothing worse!' She doesn't really mean that there is nothing worse or that she really expects to die, but a man's literal mind may respond with, 'No, you won't die, there are worse things than that!' which sounds sarcastic to a woman. By the same token, however, a woman needs to learn that she'll have to argue logically with a man if she wants to win and only give him one thought at a time. And women should never multi-track in an argument.

13. Boys like things, girls like people. Girls want relationships and cooperation, boys want power and status.

14. Give a four-year-old girl a teddy bear or toy and she'll make it her best friend; give it to a boy and he'll dismember it to see how it works, leave it in pieces and then move on to the next.

15. If a man completely shuts off, let him do it, he'll be fine. If a woman shuts off, there's trouble brewing and it's time for deep discussion. A woman may cry at being insulted because an insult is usually emotionally charged but a man may not even be aware that he has been insulted. It literally doesn't mean much to him.


16. Male sex drive is like a microwave - it ignites instantly and operates at full capacity within seconds, and can be turned off just as quickly when the meal is cooked. Women's sex drive is like an electric oven - it heats slowly to its top temperature and takes a lot longer to cool down.

17. A woman's sex drive is significantly affected by events in her life. If she hates her job, she has a really
demanding project at work, the mortgage repayments have just doubled, the kids are sick, she was drenched in the rain or the dog ran away, sex will not even be a consideration. All she can think about is going to bed and sleeping. When the same events happen to a man, he sees sex as a sleeping pill - a way of releasing the built-up tensions of the day. So, at the end of the day, he puts the hard word on the woman, she calls him an insensitive moron, he calls her frigid and he gets to sleep on the couch. Most men don't understand this difference. He may have been a perfect gentleman all day but she refuses sex because she's still unhappy that he insulted her mother two weeks ago.

Information:

1. There are more left-handed women than men and 90% of all people are right-handed.

2. If you are presenting an idea to a mixed group of men and women, it's safer to use a male speaking structure to make your points. Both sexes can follow 'man-talk' but men have difficulty following a woman's multitracked conversations and can quickly lose interest.

3. If a woman is unhappy in her relationships, she can't concentrate on her work. If a man is unhappy at
work he can't focus on his relationships. When a woman is upset she will talk emotionally
to her friends, but an upset man will rebuild a motor or fix a leaking tap.
To prove his love for her, he climbed the highest mountain, swam the deepest ocean, and crossed the widest desert. But she left him - he was never home.

4. A man's biological urge is to provide for a woman and her appreciation of his efforts confirms his success. If she is happy, he feels fulfilled. If she is not happy he feels that he is a failure because he believes he can't provide enough.Men constantly say to their friends, 'I can never make her happy,' and this can be sufficient motivation for a man to leave a relationship for another woman who seems happy with what he can provide.
A woman leaves a man not because she is unhappy with what he can provide, but because she is emotionally unfulfilled. She wants love, romance and conversation. He needs to be told by a woman that he is successful at what he does and what he can provide is fine. But a man needs to be romantic and, most of all, listen when a woman talks, without offering solutions.

5. It's not that men don't want to romance women, it's just that they don't understand its importance to women.


6.Men and women are different. Not better or worse - but different. Science knows it, but political correctness does everything it can to deny it.
More than one in three women takes nine days off each year due to stress.
Most women also said that if money was no object, they would prefer to be a homemaker or 'lady of leisure'
Women enjoy parenting more than men and, unfortunately, most men never get to appreciate it until they are grandparents.

These are all the points. It might be too much to put it here. But i really liked them and really wanted to put here. It helped me to change the way of understanding men.

And at last, i want to mention an incident while reading this book.

David: 'Where's the butter?'
Jan: 'It's in the fridge. '
David: 'I'm looking there, but I can't see any butter. '
Jan: 'Well it's there. I put it in ten minutes ago!'
David: 'No. You must have put it somewhere else.
There's definitely no butter in this fridge!'  

When i read about this topic, There is an incident happened in front of my eyes to prove that.
My husband was searching for a tablet which i told him to take from cup board. He couldn't identify... i took that in a second, smiled and told him "ya i understand... Its Men's nature... He got a pleasant shock, because he expected a fight or at least a shout on him" which happens always.
:-)

Its your life... Enjoy in all the ways u can...

Be Happy...

Vaanadhi

Guhantara Resort

Last week end, we made team trip to a cave resort which is called as "Guhantara"
I liked the environment so much.
Everything they tried to make it as natural.
Food arrangements were really nice.
There are two swimming pools and a broad area for out door games.
Indoor games were also there, but i am not interested in them.
Cleanliness is maintained nicely.
Totally its really a nice place to spend a sunlit day, as a team.

Here's the pics..

We enjoyed nicely...
Have happy Week ahead..

Enjoy!!!

Vaanadhi..

A Day For Us

On International Women's day i wrote something for the title "A woman who has inspired you"


"Woman who has inspired you", while having a look at this sentence, there is an image coming in front of my eyes without my knowledge, that’s my mom's. I can say "She is a nice and sweet lady", but for everyone mom means nice and sweet always. Beyond our relationship, as a women, she has inspired me more. Even though she is from complete village background and doesn't have educational qualification, she wanted me to study well. She has brought up two kids with giving complete education and good thoughts. I have seen her arguing with neighbors for importance of a girl kid's education versus marriage. Though she is not having educational skills, she is a bold lady to oppose anything which is not correct, and that inspired me a lot. I have always wondered about her thirst for knowledge. She always wanted to give complete freedom. It’s because her first step towards breaking the unwritten rules of village people, today i am here and writing this. She can't read and understand this paragraph. But She made me to understand the world with different views. Hats off Mom!!!

Each girl who has born in this world, serves someone in her life.
 Service is not a small thing which we call just like that. 
Its a service if she is able to tolerate kid's torture, if she is able to adjust husband, if she is ready to share the best thing with brothers etc. 
All of these things might look very tiny to call as a service, but every woman has to lose something inside to do these.
Of Course, Men also do all this.... But today ( Actually its written on March 8th) is not Men's day na.... So I am talking about women... :)

Be Proud to be a Girl...
Be Proud to be a Wife...
More than All Be Proud to be a Mom...
Everywhere we are expected in everybody's life...We are always to be proud for that...


No Sentiments... No revenges... After all we will live 50 more years and that is maximum... then y to waste time in unpleasant things?


Be Happy and Enjoy the life as it is...


Regards,
Vaanadhi