Year 2017 Review

Year 2017 has been a learning year for me personally.
Main thing which I learnt is 'Things can go out of your control even if you plan'

When I look back my resolutions of 2017, I have a slight pain in my heart.

First one was 'Do Better at work' - I completely stopped working due to tension in personal life and have resigned my current job, January 10, 2018 is my last working day in my present organization.

Reading and Writing - I could read some books and could not write anything.

Travel - I could not travel much, but we managed to visit new places in Karnataka.

I achieved my relationship resolution, that is what I believe.

Gardening - I had to vacate the house where we stayed and  half of my plants were adopted by one of my friends, It is really painful to give away your plants. I do not know in the near-by future whether I will be able to start a garden.

Good Things Happened : 

* My brother's family got confirmation that they are expecting baby in 2018.
* We got family permanent residential visa to stay and work in Australia, which was a plan in our life.
* We started constructing a house in native, which is in finishing stage; this was a dream in our life.
* I learnt what a minimalist life style is and started practicing minimalist lifestyle. I understood that I am more interested in minimalist life structure. It makes e happy.
* I have formed good exercise and yoga routine.

Bad Things Happened:

* My husband's father has been diagnosed with Cancer and he is counting his days. Life of each person at home is like hell.
* We both resigned our jobs.
* We had to take off our daughter from her favorite school.
* We could not travel to Australia even after getting Visa.
* There was misunderstanding with my sister-in-law ( It helped me to understand that we both are totally different and It is better to stay in distance )

On last day of 2017, My husband said, 'Every year will have good and bad things, Don't blame the time.' I agreed.

Be Happy To Be A Woman!!

Two weeks back, I was into management training.

'Women In Management' was the training name.

It was really interesting.

They used the 'Strengths Finder' method and encouraged each and everyone of us to find our own strengths and develop them to shine in life.

I have never had a thought to manage people, I hate it at work.

But still the ideas given in the training was really good.

At last, the trainer made us to write our own poem about the things we learnt in training.

Oh.. We were capable of writing a kind of poem..

Here's ours..

Becoming a leader is not impossible

Try and make yourself that capable

5 AM people, we were the one

Got to know, we are not alone

Don't leave before you leave

For you don't have any clue

Be brave and have fun 

After all it is all your life, Be a winner in the long run !!!

Isn't it interesting? Please say so.. :-)

I got a chance to meet women in higher management in our firm and they shared the work-life related issues. Now I realize that most of the women are struggling to bring their children up, and I am not alone in this. This gives me more interest to come back for work daily.

Just a chitchat

Have a Happy Weekend ( One more day is there.. But still )

With Love,

Vaanadhi

Happy New Year 2017 !!!

'What is the new year resolution?'
'I don't make resolution this year.'
'Why?'
'Because I always break resolutions'
'Resolutions are to break only na'

This conversation I heard yesterday.

Actually resolutions are not meant to be broken.
And it is not that you have to take resolutions on the New Year's day.
But we can have a fresh start.
And if you stay in a city like Bangalore, the new year sense automatically comes and spreads to your heart, at least to me it had happened.
Even though, I am not a party-lover, we still celebrated at home.

And here goes.. My plans for this year..

1. Do better at work :- Actually studying ( not reading ) well and performing well at work have never been my resolutions in any years. Because I used to work for my salary and I will have that satisfaction. But last year, due to personal stress, I couldn't concentrate much on work. That gave still more stress. Hence, I have planned to do better performance this year. I should give as much inputs as possible.

2. Reading and Writing :- I should read various types of books, apart from historical novels and love stories. And I should start writing more as well, on various topics.

3. Travel :- As I had mentioned in many posts, I love visiting new places, but I hate travelling ( If I have a machine which will take me to the place that I think, in a minute, will be wonderful ). I would love to visit historical pilgrimages and artistic places. At least two places, I should visit this year.

4. Relationship :- I should not hurt people and should not ignore loved ones ( not annoying ones ).

5. Gardening :- I should grow more and more plants. Try to grow some.. The pleasure is immense :-)

Apart from these, I have a simple resolution as well. It is a family resolution. After getting back to home from work, We should use our cell phones like 'land-line' phones. Whenever we have to make\receive calls only, we should go near to it. Let me tell you next year by this time, how it worked :-)

Wishing you a great and wonderful year ahead!!!

Love,
Vaanadhi.

The YEAR 2016

Year 2016, was the first new year which I came across without my dad.
It took this whole year for me to recover from his death. And I am still recovering.
I encountered My first birthday without him, his first birthday without him, My wedding day without him, His wedding day without him and many more like these.
These are some things that I have never thought that will happen in my life.
It is really difficult for a girl like me, who will be clinging to dad always.
Many days, I have gone through depression.
I should be thankful to My husband and brother for helping me to recover from this disaster.
And I should be really thankful to my little wonder, for the wonders she does in my life, without her knowledge. Whatever she does, it makes me happy.
I had a job change for no reason.
Got new friends. Encountered new environment and managers.
This year had taught me many things.
I had really understood how important every relationship is.
And why we should think before hurting anyone by talk.
I could not read as much books as I wanted to read.
I could not travel as many places as I wanted to.
This has been a great and unforgettable year in my life.

Once in a while, we need to think about the happenings in life.

Be grateful what you have in life. Especially people.

With Love,
Vaanadhi

P.S. I could not post this on the last day of 2016, even though I wanted to.

Happy Children's Day Little Ones :-)

Capturing Innocence!!!

Innocence, the word itself looks beautiful when I think of you My dear.
It started before your birth. When We used to tell 'Wake up Chikku', the response you gave through kicks, oh the real joy!!!
As a three KG bundle of joy, When i holded you, I perceived the first purest smile in the world.
The innocence went on..
When you started moving on your tummy.
When you got your first fever and wanted my presence.
When you started standing on your own.
When you smiled with your first teeth.
When you said the first word 'Light'.
When you said the first sentence 'we will drink milk'.
when you asked your first question 'Why don't we make biriyani with all these hens?'
And still going on..
The joy i see in your face when I return back from work.
The joy that you give me when I get a new book for you.
When you tell the rhyme 'Kiwi black fdhuit' ( Your version of 'three bags full' in Baa Baa Black sheep)
When you combine three rhymes together, and make your own version of rhymes.
When you want to wear my clothes.
When you ask me to show pink color cow..
When you ask me to make 'Spicy Apple Curry'.
When you tell me to give bath to your 'Thidhi'( Teddy )
When you tell me 'Go thoo aapithe' ( Go to office ).
Innocence is the only feel that I have captured in our Mother-Daughter journey.

sometimes I have expected you to be a matured girl according to my needs.
Many times I wanted you to be a naughty toddler.
You have always got confused, because of my controversial expectations,
But even in confusion you have given me a big smile.
You have been my great teacher when it comes to parenting.
Love you A lot

Happy International Children's day to all the Children in the world.
You People are really wonderful!!!
Without You there is no life for this World itself!!!
Please be more naughty and innocent, to make us happy!!!
Enjoy your Childhood.

Love,
Vaanadhi

I love reading..

No time to blog now a days.
Working parents can understand the limited time we get for ourselves.
But writing is something which will pull you towards it once you start doing, even if you do not have any readers.
I am like that, I want to write whatever is there in my mind.
Today I got some Me-Me time.

Hence posting this Meme which I got it from here

1. How long did it take you to finish your last book? - 5 Months ( Historical Fiction )

2. How many times do you stare at your bookshelves each day? - At least 2 times

3. How many Goodreads friends/books do you have? - Many Books

4. Do you ever quote books in public? - Yes

5. Do you ever re-read books? - Yes, Many Times

6. Do you judge a book by its cover? - Not Always

7. Do you take pictures of your books before you read them? - NO

8. What are your biggest distractions from reading? - My Lovely daughter

9. Where is your favorite place to buy books? - Namakkal

10. Do you always have a book with you? - Yes

11. Do you read during breakfast?  - No

12. How many hours a day would you say you read? - 30 Minutes

13. Do you read more or less now than you did, say, 10 years ago? - Less, after Motherhood

14. Do you consider yourself a speed reader? - Yes, in Tamil

15. Do you read in bed? - Yes

16. How old were you when you got your first library card? - 8 years

I was kindled while answering these questions.
I have to read more. Many books are waiting for me.

Happy Reading!!

Love,
Vaanadhi

Woman and Financial Independence

I hate the middle class scenario in India, wherein a husband insists or restricts the willingness of a woman to work or not to work.

Also I wonder if a woman tells that I do not want to work and to stay at home.

I agree that Home-making is very very difficult task and home-makers should be given respect more than a working person.

But somewhere in a corner of my mind, I still feel that there should be financial independence for every woman.

Especially if we are a nuclear family in Indian scenario, and don't have any assets ,we definitely need some financial independence.

In my case, I had planned to resign my job after giving birth to my daughter ( after maternity leave )

I was taking care of my daughter for 3 months doing so.

I really enjoyed with the time that I spent with kid.

But at one saturated point ( I did not expect that it will happen in 3 months ), I wanted to get back to work as it started boring.

One main thing is that I wanted a refreshment for my mind.

Apart from family I wanted my set of people to discuss things with.

I can't sit and watch TV for more than 15 minutes ( Really! )

I love reading books, but my daughter loves all my books  (I really wonder what that 'Going-to-be-2-year old' understands from my books), hence she won't allow me to read.

Of course, my husband is a big supporter to me, but his work timing is very difficult to cope up with us.

It started boring for me; Then I joined back.

So here are the reasons that I found out why a middle class mother (!) should work:

1. We will get our set of people to communicate with,apart from discussing about serials, dresses,husband's office and child's school with other apartment ladies.

2. We can support our husband financially, there could be really difficult situations for him to handle alone.

3. We will become much more active; All working women will know about this.

4. Our knowledge gets improved a lot.

5. We don't need to be blank-minded when some unexpected things happen. We can make our own decisions. We will gain self-esteem.

We may take break for children, but once they grow up, we should get back for our own space.

Not a high-paid job, at least we can work in our free time ( say 10 to 3 )

These are all my observations. But each one will have different situations and opinions.

Some days , whenever I had a hard time at work, even I have felt why not should I stay at home and enjoy with family.. But I don't dare to take that decision, because I have experienced how it would be.

Anyhow, Happy Working :-)

Love,

Vaanadhi